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Inquiry into how to heal the bad relationships after gossips.



Juliana Beltran C May 22 of 2012

In conclusion we have learned that to cure the bad relationship after gossip, the best method is to Forgive.

Forgive is a way that you can forget what has happened and continue your friendship. Forgiving is not that easy if you have done something very bad maybe you should have more tools. Maybe you could buy a chocolate and a card, so know it would be easier to cure. The human feelings are really delicate and when they are hurt there have to be many things that ca bring them happier.

In conclusion the best way of curing the relationship after gossips is using nice words. These actions make feel much better that person and through the time you’ll manage to have a good relationship again.



Juliana Beltran C 23 of May of 2012


 * In this article you can find ways to stop fighting and have a healthy relationship. There are different steps to stop fighting, sometimes there are silly reasons that we fight like a gossip, you need to know well what was the intention. Its is good to know what was the intention because if they really didn't want to hurt your feelings then you can have a a healthy relationship. The dialogue is the best solution talk and solve the conflict but don't find more reasons to fight. **
 * Find out exactly why are you arguing or fighting. Sometimes we end up fighting over really annoying issues
 * Once you know sit with your friend and have a healthy chat.
 * If she/he has any complains regarding your particular behavior take that into account and try to change yourself after all he/she is your best friend you do not want lose him/her.
 * If it does not work then don't talk to your friend for a week or so until you start missing him or her.
 * Do not discuss anything that you know will turn into a fight.
 * Discuss the good times which you have spent together.

Bibliography: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Fighting-With-Your-Best-Friend

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<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">In this article you can find information of how you could stop fighting and keep having a good relationship. This exercise is for people that are calm and know what they are doing. People don’t do this exercise easily but if you can it will be really good for you relationship.

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">- Call your friend on the phone. Do this when you feel calmer, and not in a bad mood. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">- Ask or tell your friend the following things: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;"> All the good things about your friend; ask what they like about you. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;"> All the good things about your friendship; ask what they like about your friendship. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;"> Own up to less than kind things you've said behind their back; this includes letting them know if you have been forwarding their e-mails, text messages, letters etc. to other people or if you've been dissing about them behind their back; ask them to 'fess up back to you. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;"> What is great about your friend's personal style and how you'd like him or her to take notice of your style once in a while etc..

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">- Write your answers down. Go through these together as a source of reinforcement. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">- Share your answers at the end of the conversation. It will be good for the two of you to realize all the positives about your relationship/friendship.

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Some tips:
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Express your feelings honestly and tactfully.
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Expect your friend to react strongly, so be prepared to back up your comments/questions.
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">When expressing feelings, look your friend in the eye and speak calmly, not harsh.
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Don't be rude, just answer questions from them with honesty and sincerity.
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Don't do any of these things while you're mad, you may just lash out.

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Bibliography:

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Fighting-with-Your-Friend

<span style="color: #d000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juliana Beltran C <span style="color: #d000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">15 of May of 2012

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">In this video you can see why forgiving is so important in our lives. The only way od healing the bad relashionship after gossip is forgiving the person you have hurt. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">media type="youtube" key="yVwUSubBH6k" height="315" width="420" <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Bibliography: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yVwUSubBH6k&feature=player_embedded#!

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<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">So let us examine what is really behind the urge to gossip, even if we believe that we are not gossipers. Let us witness the unnecessary damage that gossip does. Next time someone gossips in our presence, let us stop the gossiper in his or her tracks, even if it means becoming the brunt of the gossip or ending a friendship. Let us have the wisdom to know when it is truly a friend needing to sort things out or if it is gossip. Let us stop gossip where it begins. Let us heal the hurt feelings and judgments that make gossip a reality. Let us tolerate the faults we see in others, even if we don’t want to hang out with those people. Let us live and let live, allowing each other to make the mistakes we need to make in order to grow, allowing each other to have the faults that we have agreed to have in this lifetime. Let us not take revenge on the human condition we see in others. Let us allow Godself to explore the faulty human condition in every possible way without harm. Let us realize that it is truly Oneself having many lifetimes, many versions of self, exploring all the faults and strengths that are possible in the human condition. Let us allow even the lowliest among us to be our teacher, our Buddha. What does that person who irks you so much teach you about yourself? This is the path of the master.
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">In this article theres something you can do, tape you in recorder for knowing the actions that you are making. When you know and realise what you are doing maybe you will stop telling gossip and stop judging other and healing bad feeling that you have heart. **

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Bibliography: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">http://umsonline.org/Reading/PastIssues/2005/winter04_05/Articles/Gossip.htm

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<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">First you have to think of what you have done and see your own feelings. Then you have to forgive and then forget. You have to understand the purpose. Then you can write a letter of what did you did and how you feelings are. Then you need to try to forget of what the person did and stay committed to heal.
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">In this article you can find information of how to cure the harmful words you have said to others. **

<span style="color: #000000; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Bibliography: http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/positive-thinking-discussions/general-support/3079134-how-to-heal-from-hurtful-words

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<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">This image help you to reflects what you can do with your words. Hurt or just heal. Thats what we are looking for we are looking that people reflect about their words so they can cure the bad feelings of people. This image tells that wordscan hurt or heal and you are the onee that has to dicide what you are going to do.

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<span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 16px;">Interview to Mrs. <span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 16px;">vice-president of Universidad del valle <span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 16px;">Social Worker

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Question related: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">How to heal the victim?

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Answer: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Gossip can be impossible to stooped. But you can heal the person that has been hurt. How? well if you be nice to that person, ask that person if they can forgive you and tell them you want to be friends again. Maybe it wont work but is the best way to cure the bad relationship after gossip.

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<span style="color: #800080; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Interview to <span style="color: #800080; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Karen Arce <span style="color: #800080; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Social Worker

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Question related: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">How to heal the victim?

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Answer: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Well to heal a person affected a gossip is very difficult. Many people use the option to forget but thats not the way you could heal that person or to build again a good relashionship. The best option is to ask for forgiveness and cure that person with good words and nice attitude. The relationship wont be never the same. But if you ask for a new begging maybe it will improve a lot.

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<span style="color: #d000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Interview to <span style="color: #d000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Amanda Reyes <span style="color: #d000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Physiologist

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Question related: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">How to heal the bad relationship after gossip?

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Answer: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">To heal the bad relationship you should unwrap all the story and get to why it was created. Usually there are really silly reasons so you should forgive and forget about them. If it doesn't work then you should ask for a new begging.

<span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Julian Beltran <span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">23 of May of 2012

<span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Interview to <span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Elena Gonzales <span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Sociologist

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Question related: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">How could we cure the feelings of the victim?

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Answer <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">We could cure the fellings of the victim asking for for forgiveness and having a dialogue with that person. It is very important to know what was the intention of that person towards you. The best way is dialogue where you can talk but in a calm way. If there was a bad intention towards you, you should stop that person and tell that is bothering you that stop it.



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<span style="color: #d000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Survey to <span style="color: #d000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">5th graders

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Question related: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">If someone is your friend and creates a gossip about you, what will you do?

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Most common answer: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">I wouldn't talk her or him anymore and ignore him. I wouldn't pay attention.



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<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Throughout my expirience with gossip I have learned that the best way is to forgive. Why? well because it dosent work that you keep fighting with that person and claiming what they or you have done because that will keep you forever talking. What you have done done it is. So just forgive and forget!

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<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Throughout my experience with gossip I think the best solution is the dialogue because if you and get to the point the problem will solve very easly. It is very important to know what was the intention because if it was bad then you will need even more dialogue to solve you problem.

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<span style="color: #ff0000; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Preview knowledge <span style="color: #ff0000; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Actually I don't know how we could heal someone who feeling are destroyed and they don't want to talk to anybody. People that are hurt they are usually prevented of what may happen in their surroundings. I think that they don't want to talk to anybody because when you feel upset.