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Inquiry into different roles you can have in a conflict.



Natalia Garcia 22 of May 2012

From all my learning of this LOI I want to conclude. When we are talking about gossips and its different roles, we can call them like this: Creator, Witness, Victim. Each of them has a different point of view that are: Creators: they start the gossip but they have an intention.  Victim: Feels bad when someone do some thing bad to his self-esteem and could become a problem  Witness: They don't mind because you are not involved in the case you just pass the gossip so everyone knows it and also they start treating bad the victim.

(This is not always, gossip can be bad as well as good but we need to learn to manage it)



Natalia Garcia 22 of May 2012

I found what is a victim and which are its points of view in a conflict (gossip conflict)
The person who's gossip is being spread:

 Conflict involves an attack or threat to people (victims), we feel victimized. With the victim role we believe of innocence as well as a feeling of powerlessness. Other times we wait for something to change or for someone to rescue us. Some people suffer in silence, others express their points of view of what they did them. Many people are scared of telling why they where suffering and they are waiting for some one to rescue them.

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<span style="color: #ff6200; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Natalia Garcia <span style="color: #ff6200; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">22 of May 2012

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive;">This article shows which are the characteristics of a creator.
<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Creator of gossip manipulate, control the victim for what he wants. This role represents the side of us that can be mean. This dark side is selfish. The villain attacks and takes what they want without concern for the impact on others. These tactics are used to control; when we experience someone controlling us, we quickly cast them as the villain in our conflict story. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">In fact, the behaviours of the creator are similar to those of the witneses, only by how we judge them. Looking strictly at behaviour in conflict, a creator is simply a misunderstood witness. Even people who act inappropriately or antisocially have their story, in which they see themselves as victims and in which they justify their actions as “evening the score.” One person’s justice is another’s revenge.

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<span style="color: #cd1fef; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Natalia Garcia <span style="color: #cd1fef; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">22 of May 2012

==<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive;">This article tells that we can compare very serious things into a simple thing. For example the roles in a conflict of a victim, creator and witness can easily be compare in roles in a fairy tale conflict. Each has its points of view and reasons. ==

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">In conflict, everyone has a story and its own perspective and there are at least two sides to every story or even more. We can understand these stories by prefacing them with the words “Once upon a time.” Fairy tales editions of different points of view allow us to see the conflict and our roles differently and to find more constructive ways face the situation.

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">As an example in fairy tales feature three main types of characters where: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">At this case it will be different because it is in a different conflict that is gossip so the victim will be the one that the gossip is about. The villian lets say is the gossip creator but it can't be necessarily a villian it can also be the bad guy who wants to change a little bit things or like to start a misunderstanding. And the involved persons are like the witneses who passes all the gossips but at the end they are like inocents.
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">The victim (often represented as a damsel in distress or an innocent youth);
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">The villain (a witch, giant or dragon)
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">The involved persons ( people who help, who are in any side of a conflict)

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Every one has passed through all thease masks so you know how it feels.



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<span style="color: #cd1fef; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Natalia Garcia <span style="color: #cd1fef; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">22 of May 2012

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">I found a picture where they tell something really important about masks. People have masks, in this case the Creator, Witnesses and the victim where people think that without them, they simply can't have friends. Sometimes we notice when someone has a mask we don't notice it but there are others when accidentaly they get ripped off easily. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Bibliography: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">[]

<span style="color: #00d9ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Natalia Garcia <span style="color: #00d9ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">20 of May 2012

==<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive;">Always spreading a gossip starts almost equal. Is always someone who wants to start a conflict or missunderstanding. The creator is someone who starts the rummor or gossip and passes it to the widnesses. ==

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">When a gossip is created and passed by one student (the originator or creator) that is about another student (the victim), the spreading time takes a short time for the victim's friends to know. The spread is more powerfull if the victim's friends hear the gossip.

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">The model also shows that, when the number of friends is sufficiently large, the time it takes for the gossip to spread to all the victim's friends grows that's why the victim feels so bad, because all its friends starts to hate them. Having more friends makes the risk of gossip greater, but slows the spread.



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<span style="color: #00ff00; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Natalia Garcia <span style="color: #00ff00; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">22 of May 2012

<span style="color: #00ff00; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Interview to Amanda Reyes <span style="color: #00ff00; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Psychologist primary section- CCB

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Question: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">How are the different roles in a conflict like gossip?

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Answer: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">There are different roles in a conflict like gossip but lets call them masks. Everyone has a mask, the problem is that they can be taken away. For example what you call a victim you shouldn't call it like that because it is not inocent at all. Many people think that wearing a mask makes them a better person but that is not true



<span style="color: #ff0084; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Natalia Garcia <span style="color: #ff0084; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 17px; line-height: 25px;">20 of May 2012

<span style="color: #ff0084; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Survey to the fith graders- CCB

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Question realted to the victims point of view: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Have you spread a gossip about some one anytime? Why?

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Answer: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">- Because people ask me and I answer <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">- Yes because they are not bad (most) <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">- Because I think I am going to feel more important <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">- Yes because you are mad with some one <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">- Yes because he or she had spread a gossip of me too



<span style="color: #cd1fef; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Natalia Garcia <span style="color: #cd1fef; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">22 of May 2012

<span style="font-family: Comic Sans MS,cursive;">This is a post about how I felt when I was in that possitions and how I've seen many people suffering because that.
<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 17px; line-height: 25px;">I had experienced about different roles in a conflict. I had been them all so I know how it feels to feel bad, treat someone bad and pass something so someone feel bad. We all have feelings that could be hurt. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 17px;">When we are the creators, we started but we feel shame because if is not true, the victim could acuse you so you seemed scared. When you are a witness, you don't mind because you are not involved in the case you just pass it. When you are the victim you feel very, very, very bad with everyone and with yourself because people are hurting you and are making that everyone knows it.

<span style="color: #ff0000; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Natalia Garcia C <span style="color: #ff0000; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">15 of May 2012

<span style="color: #ff0000; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Prior knowledge: <span style="color: #ff0000; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 130%;">Gossips are equal to conflict and in there, there are different roles that are the Creator, Witness and Victim. Each of them are responsable for different things for example the creator starts the gossip and starts telling everyone about it, this is part of gossip process. The witness is the one who transport the gossip from ear to mouth and from mouth to ear, this is the one who makes everyone know about the gossip, he/she can do it in different ways like in social networks, just saying it, by your smartphone etc. The victim is the one who suffer and who's the gossip is about, he/she will feel very sad, damage, lonly, depresed and lots of bad things that can not be erased.