Responsability





Juliana Beltran C May 22 of 2012

In conclusion we have learned that our responsibility is pretty simple. We always have to think before talking. A way to guide you is asking this questions: - What I’m telling its true? - What I’m telling is something bad about someone? - Can these hurt someone? - Is this useful for me or for the person I’m telling or is it important? Every time you are going to hear or spread a gossip you should ask yourself or the person that is going to tell you this questions.

We have found out that people don’t know how it can hurt someone’s feelings or destroy their lives. If people will know many stories and the consequences that gossip can bring we are sure that gossiping will decrease a lot.

If you want to stop a gossip about you, you have to stop and think, you have to set the story straight or in other words say the truth. Build your friend fortress so you can be more secure. But remember you should always have your head held high and don’t be upset because that what the people want.

You have many ways to confront gossip. The first one that is the most appropriated one that is to just ignore and let that person burn alone. And the second one that is to confront that person but this is the least likely to use because you’ll give that person what they want that you be upset. In conclusion our responsibility with gossip is to show the people the steps and let them know all the damage they are making, so know it will be easier that they stop.



Juliana Beltran C

May 22 of 2012

Do not participate in spreading gossip and rumors, and do not tolerate it from others. Rumor and gossip sabotages the team's ability to work together effectively. It is disrespectful, nonproductive, and a selfishly motivated act that impedes employees from performing their jobs. If you hear about an issue that pertains directly to you, verify the accuracy of the information by asking the supervisor or the coworker involved, rather than simply passing on the information.
 * In this article I have found information of how we can stop gossip in work place. People say " We cant stop gossiping" or "Its part of the employees personality" but if they take the responsibility of thinking before talking they can stop them. First find out what damages can make and if you think its not appropriated then don't spread it out. **

Bibliography: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">http://www.mrsc.org/focus/hradvisor/hra0505.aspx

<span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juliana Beltran C <span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">May 21 of 2012

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">This video is about a girl that helps others and helps them to deal with gossips and romurs. Since we have to take our own responsibility and worry about ourselves she gives us tips and steps. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">media type="youtube" key="oNgUtPe4Kmg" height="315" width="560"
 * 1) <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Stop and think
 * 2) <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Set the story straight
 * 3) <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Build up your friend fortress
 * 4) <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Be assertive, but NOT aggressive
 * 5) <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Give something else to talk about

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;"> Bibliography: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oNgUtPe4Kmg

<span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juan Felipe Sanchez <span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">May 16 of 2012

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Other studies have looked at the role of gossip and rumor, which are not ordinarily used maliciously. In fact, research suggests that when younger children who are close friends gossip, they're usually just venting and bonding - 93 percent of the time, they don't mean to hurt anyone. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">However, gossip gone bad can be devastating to its targets. This form of social aggression, according to psychologist Marion Underwood, PhD, hurts the giver and the taker. Underwood has found that for children, being victimized by social aggression (including gossip) is associated with poor self-concept, especially for girls. Other studies show that victimization is associated with loneliness, depression and anxiety. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">The pattern changes as children grow up. Psychologists Antonius Cillessen, PhD, and Lara Mayeux, PhD, followed 905 children from the ages of 10 to 14. Those who others rated as socially aggressive - for spreading gossip about peers or intentionally excluding others from games - are more popular at the young end of the age range. That may be because children can use gossip to form social alliances, just like adults. However, heavy gossip backfires by early in high school. Popular fifth-graders, who rated high in gossip, were also well liked by their peers, but by ninth grade, popularity and likeability were negatively correlated to gossip.
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">This is an article that shows the gossip impact on kids and schools and what consecuences can produce to the kid and the school. **

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<span style="color: #800080; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juan Felipe Sanchez <span style="color: #800080; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">May 15 of 2012


 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">This is an article that the options that a gossiper have when he or her promode goosip or create a gossip that affect not only a person it can be all the community. **

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">The options you have when dealing with a gossiper
<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">After you have waited for few days you can do any of the following options based on how important the person is for you and the underlying causes for his gossip.
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Let him burn: This is one of my favorite strategies, if someone is gossiping about me because of jealousy I just keep sending him good news about me to keep him burning with his own fire
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Confront him: If the gossiper is causing a damage to your reputation and if you don’t expect him to stop soon then call him when are calm. Tell him that you are aware of his doings and that only those who are scared to face one another directly gossip. Most people will apologize and remember your call the next time they decide to gossip about you. Make sure not to threat them because threatening will stimulate their anger and this stored anger will be released through more gossiping. In my book The ultimate guide to break any bad habit i explained how negative motivation can have a strong effect on people's behavior. Your call will be the negative motivation element that the person will remember whenever he tries to talk about you
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Send him my previous article: My article Why do people gossip shows that the only reason behind gossiping are personal flaws. If the person is not important to you and if he has said really bad things about you then sending him such article is a very polite way of telling him “You are sick”

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Bibliography: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">[]

<span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juan Felipe Sanchez <span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">May 15 of 2012


 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Preventing Gossips. People dont like gossip so here are some tips that you can use in your daily life so here are the perfect tips and you would be with gossips lies. **

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Preventing gossiping
<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">I am sure you know how bad it feels when you discover that someone is gossiping about you. Because you have felt that already try to stop yourself and the people around you from gossiping. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">If you can influence your friends then change the subject whenever they try to gossip about someone and if you aren’t the leader of the pack then at least try to prevent yourself from gossiping about others. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">The book The ultimate guide to getting over depression was released by 2knowmself, the book provides a 100% guarantee for feeling better else you will be refunded. 2knowmysef is not a complicated medical website nor a boring online encyclopedia but rather a place where you will find simple, to the point and effective information that is backed by psychology and presented in a simple way that you can understand and apply. If you think that this is some kind of marketing hype then see what other visitors say about 2knowmyself.

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<span style="color: #c500ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juan Felipe Sanchez <span style="color: #c500ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">May 15 of 2012


 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">How to deal with gossip persons? People thing there is not a solution to deal with gossip persons but it is possible if you read this you are going to know how. **

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<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">A big part of dealing with people who gossip about you is understanding gossip, the thoughts that run in the mind of those who gossip and the psychology behind gossiping. =====

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<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">In my previous article why do people gossip I said that the person who gossips is someone who carries some resentment towards you and who doesn’t have the courage to face you directly and so he found no other option other than talking about you in your absence. =====

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<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">People will gossip about you if they are jealous of you, if they aren’t strong enough to face you with their concerns or if they feel worthless. Those people try to make themselves more worthy by saying that they are better than someone else. =====

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<span style="color: #c500ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">14 of May of 2012 <span style="color: #c500ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juliana Beltran C

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">media type="youtube" key="9uEPAR9ll6I" height="315" width="420" <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Bibliography:
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">In this video you can find information of how to handle when people gossip about you. When people gossip about you you should just held your head high dont react because what they want you is to have a reaction and be upset. **

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9uEPAR9ll6I

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 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Gossip is a topic that people don't seem to like but there are people that really want to stop it and is our responsability if we want to do something about it. **

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">This video is a message from girls froma scout group that were affected by gossip and want to stop it because all the negative impact it can cause media type="youtube" key="DstlHQdIrXU" width="425" height="350" align="center"

<span style="color: #c500ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">13 of May of 2012 <span style="color: #c500ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juliana Beltran C

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">media type="youtube" key="XIR2VJaPwlU" height="315" width="560" <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Bibliography: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XIR2VJaPwlU&feature=player_embedded
 * <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">This is a video about a lot of girls that learn a lesson about gossip. This can give us different ideas of our action. The important lesson is that ones you say something it will always be out there and theres no way back. **

<span style="color: #ff9500; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">7th of May 2012 <span style="color: #ff9500; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Natalia Garcia C

==<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">We will ever know who started gossiping but maybe it can apear some solutions. Gossip can start many things, big conflics or even something worse. ==

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">This link will let you read a story of how gossip start to spread and wich are some of the possible solutions. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Gossip is a BIG problem that can affect anything, even gossip can start a war, cancel something like a web page, start big conflicts, close a factory or company or even a bank. Like you see, gossip is not only about telling something about a person, but it could cause a lot of conflict in the world.

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Bibliography: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">[]

<span style="color: #008080; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">11 May 2012 <span style="color: #008080; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Andrea Cruz <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Gossip is something inposible to stop, but your responsability is to stop it and dont pass it, i belive that you dont need to hear gossips if they are bad of another pearson let them for you or dont even hear them. Thats the good way of doing things.

<span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">9 of May of 2012 <span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juliana Beltran C

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">This video is about how people can take responsibility and stop gossiping.
<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">When you are going to take responsibility you need to start from yourself and when you are going to get involved in a gossip think well of what you are doing because you're actions can bring big consequences. So think of the 3 question he have mentioned and you will see how well you are going to feel.

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Bibliography: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rj-zseUqQxk

<span style="color: #c500ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">9 of May of 2012 <span style="color: #c500ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juliana Beltran C

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">This video is about a women that is taking responsibility and she is showing how she felt about to stop gossiping.
<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">She said that if you don't gossip and judge others you will feel better and less judged. We can learn from her that is difficult but she made all of her effort and she have start working on it.

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Bibliography: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=23X7OVmZQFk

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<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">In this web page you can find information of how to deal with gossip.
<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">This is some tip for you csn start with your own because the responsability comes from you so you can deal with them. If there is ever a time where there are rumors being spread about you, do not get upset or angry or even cry.No matter how bad the rumor is.Because if you do,you are giving the person who started the rumor what they want.And do not defend yourself.If you do it gives people the idea that the rumor is true.

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Bibliography: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">http://dell13.hubpages.com/hub/How_To_Deal_With_Highschool_Gossip_Or_Rumors

<span style="color: #ff9500; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">9 of May of 2012 <span style="color: #ff9500; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juliana Beltran C

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">In this web page you can find different tips because our responsability for stopping gossip starts from ourselves.
<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">One good tip to stop them is that you shouldnt involve in your conversation people that isnt there. If people start talking about other you should tell them <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">"I'm working on not discussing others unless they are here, so can we talk about something else ...".

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Bibliography: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">http://www.leadership-and-motivation-training.com/workplace-gossip.html

<span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">8 of May of 2012 <span style="color: #0000ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juliana Beltran C

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">In this web page I have found a possible action that we may do.
<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">This campaign consist in stoping gossip and healing the fellings of the victims in a nice way. People pass a nice gossip for the victim to feel in a better way and his feeling will be healing by the time passes but yo also have to stop telling them so it will be a larger action. Her is and example:

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<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Bibliography: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">http://www.wordscanheal.org/



<span style="color: #008080; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juliana Beltran C <span style="color: #008080; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">15 of May of 2012

<span style="color: #008080; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Interview to Mrs. <span style="color: #008080; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Vice-president Universidad del valle <span style="color: #008080; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Social Worker

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Question related to the topic: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">How can gossips be stoped?

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Answer: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Well I think gossip cant be stopped. However if you think of the questions like: Is this true? Can it hurt someone? Maybe gossip could be stopped if people thought about this question before they answer or take the responsibility to continue.

<span style="color: #008000; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juliana Beltran C <span style="color: #008000; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">15 of May of 2012

<span style="color: #008000; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Interview to Karen Harce <span style="color: #008000; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Universidad del Valle <span style="color: #008000; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Social Worker

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Question related to the topic: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">How can gossip be stoped?

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Answer: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Its human nature to gossip but they don't think about their actions. Gossip can't be stopped like magic. Gossip has to be worked on for a long time and people have to reflect about their actions and think how they have feeled when people gossip about them. Have they feeled good? If they have well then thast not a gossip. They have to try to put in someone elses shoes and try to undestrand them. When they know the damage they are making maybe they will stop.



<span style="color: #ff00ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juliana Beltran C <span style="color: #ff00ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">15 of May of 2012

<span style="color: #ff00ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Surveys to 5th graders

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Question related: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Do you know what people feel when they gossip about them? <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">If you know what people feel why do you continue doing it?

<span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Most common aswers: <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">They feel bad, sad, disapointed, and upset. <span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">I dont know or I don't think of it when im going to answer.



<span style="color: #c500ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">2nd of May of 2012 <span style="color: #c500ff; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Juliana Beltran C

<span style="color: #ff0000; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Preview knowledge: <span style="color: #ff0000; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Gossip lies should be stop and you can start from yourself not telling lies in the gossips because you are hurting somebody elses feelings. When they tell you a gossip you shouldn't pass it on you should just keep it to yourself so yo wont be involved in a problem.